We all deserve a good hotel room, whether we are smart or dumb, rich or poor, yet the hotel travel industry has duping delight on steroids.

Duping Delight by the Hotels

This travel tip puts Dr. Phil and Billy Joel in the same hotel room, making them live together, with Dr. Phil advising that you “get real” and Billy Joel – the street-smart, New York City kid – singing “only the good die young.”

Duping Delight

Pamela Meyer gave a great TED Talk in which she taught two truly insightful concepts about lying. First, lying is a cooperative act: We agree to allow people to lie because we just cannot be bothered to stop others from lying; it would take too much work. Second, the liar feels “duping delight” when he or she succeeds with the lie, as you can see from the look on his or her face.

People delight when they lie, getting one over on the other person. This is the warning that Billy Joel is giving; he wants you to learn that “only the good die young” … because they were duped into believing that being good would make them succeed. This is the cynical explanation of how we get duped.

Duping Delight Dr Phil

Dr. Phil sort of gives us the contemptuous version of duping delight. He wants us to “get real” and wants us to stop being stupid. Yet Dr. Phil is experiencing his own duping delight. He dupes guests to appear on his show and act stupidly. And he contemptuously dupes us into watching other people being duped.

Don’t Be Stupid! Don't Get Duped!

Billy Joel wants us to accept that we need to be clever, and Dr. Phil promotes we “get real,” but the story is the same: Don’t be stupid! Stop getting duped!

Hotels Dupe You as Standard Procedure

First, let us think about the Five-Star hotels, such as Hilton, Sheraton and the Marriott. These hotel chains truly do give us great hotel rooms, and most rooms in the hotels are great. This is a reason to stay in these large chain hotels: It is truly difficult to find ourselves in a bad hotel room.

But let’s think about the other 99 percent of hotels.

Say, then, that one percent of the hotels on the planet is part of the large hotel chains … so, what about the bed and breakfasts, the boutique hotels, the family-run ones, the ones recommended on TripAdvisor? Is every room in these hotels the same?

As a person who has lived in over 1,000 hotels during 15 years of perpetual travel and knows the Lonely Planet guidebook like a yellow Bible, there is one thing I know for sure: There are always bad rooms in the hotel, and they are given to the good people, the ones that Billy Joel describes when he sings, “only the good die young.”

And as Dr. Phil says, let’s “get real.” He is correct. There is no reason to be duped into the worst room in the hotel.

John Edward Duping Delight

I am grateful to Pamela Meyer for explaining duping delight.

For 15 years, I have entered hotels and seen the look on the face of the manager, owner or desk person trying to rent me the hotel room. And I thought, that is a slimy look. But now, thanks to Pamela Myers, I understand that slimy look is duping delight.

Listen very carefully to the words of a hotel that is duping you:

“That hotel room is occupied; this is the only one available.”

What is the solution? How do we get the best hotel room?

The simple solution is to look at every single room in the hotel and assume the hotel staff is going to fight you tooth and nail. We must take a complete tour of each hotel we want to stay in. Bed and breakfasts and boutique hotels are where the rooms can be exceptionally bad as there is just no way to make all the rooms in an old house good.

Duping Delight Lance Armstrong

(Lance Armstrong – read more.)

Recently, I entered a hotel with a friend from France. He took the first room the owner gave him. Meanwhile, I was slow, annoying to the owner. I chose one in the corner, quiet and with air conditioning.

I was watching the owner’s face: He had duping delight when my friend took a bad room. It was annoying to watch the smile on the owner’s face. I wanted to sing like Billy Joel, “only the good die young,” and teach my friend hotel street smarts, or say like Dr. Phil “get real,” this guy is lying to you.

When you are choosing a hotel room, look at the face of the person showing you the room. Body language never lies. If you are seeing duping delight on the face of the hotel staff, there is still a better hotel room you have yet to see, so keep searching.

Hotels love reservation systems because this is duping delight on steroids.

Have fun and remember that hotel duping is not fatal. We can fix the problem by moving into the best hotel room the next day.

Thanks,

Andy Lee Graham 

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Alakuko from wrote 1 comment

To avoid being duped in any hotel,rely on your instinct,ask yourself this question inwardly is this room meant for me or good for me.instinct does not lie.do not rush and do not allow anybody to rush you.

Gadget from has written 3 comments

Alakuko, this is good, to avoid duping we need to listen to our inner voice. And the hotel have an advantage, we are normally tired from a long trip, and we want to rush, we want to go fast, get the room and rest.

Generally, to just get the room the first night, then look for a better Hotel or room the next day is another method.

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